Are you sick of people taking you for granted? Afraid if you say no they'll hold a grudge? Are you feeling uncertain, do you have a lack of confidence? Well here are tips for you to become assertive, you will gain a lot more happiness in life once you speak your mind.
When telling someone no, remember , you are human. Think about it, how can you always do everything, how can you always mean yes or say yes? If you keep saying yes because you fear the person won't talk to you, this is a disservice to yourself. You need to be honest with yourself first. Do you really want to say yes? You’re not being real if you’re just saying it from fear. Most people who always get a yes from one person, often do not expect a "no" and become thrown off once they are told "no" but , how many times have they said "no" to you? Think about it, it's good for them but not for you?? There is no fairness in that. Next time you want to say no, just say it without any explanation. People will respect you for it and you'll gain a lot more confidence as well.
If you know someone is not doing right by you, you feel as if you are holding a lot in. In a tactful and diplomatic manner, control them. Holding onto resentment can be unhealthy for you. get it all out, speak your mind and maybe you can come to a resolution for all involved.
Ever feel you deserve something, like perhaps a raise, or your friend to help you move, or maybe you need to borrow a few bucks. Hey, everyone’s always asking you for a favor, well, it's ok for you to go to them as well. it works both ways. Be confident and rest assure you have every right to ask for help. This is also a test of friendship, if they constantly say no to you, maybe it's time to assess the relationship.
If you feel you are being talked down too or berated in anyway, speak up. Do not keep quiet just because your trying to be polite. Be honest in how you feel, without yelling, be firm and tactful, they will get it, trust me.
Remember you cannot change how people are, but you can change how you react.
Don't allow anyone to take credit for your work. This happens often in the work place. People are trying to obtain gold stars or something so, they often try to take credit for other's input.
