It is quite imperative that we go on to develop assertiveness skills in order to be able to get ahead in life and make the right impressions on the people who matter.
Developing assertiveness skills is all about changing your behavior and that includes the way you talk, the way you feel about yourself and the way you are able to behave in a confident and positive manner towards one and all. In fact adopting a positive behavior means a total personality change for one. It will also allow you to gain a better understanding about yourself and how people perceive you. There are several word and behavior choices that we all come across on a daily basis and the right choice of these will make a difference between us being assertiveness or not.
When you are expressing yourself with assertiveness you are able to enjoy life to the fullest and completely. You will relish the people around you and enjoy your family, work and play. The people who express assertiveness are known to be effective, efficient and overall valued by all around them.
Ask yourself these questions to get to the crux of the situation:
Do I listen proactively?
Do I take constructive feedback on board and apply strategies to overcome it?
Am I a good team player?
Do I communicate in open and non-judgmental manners?
Am I committed to change and do I have a road map ready?
Do I reinforce positive behavior?
The moment you have jotted down the answers to these you will be able to project a positive and assertiveness image of yourself.
Keep in mind that people who express assertiveness initiate relationships and work effectively with others.
Assertive people are successful at achieving the balance in life:
The pressures that face people today are tremendous, but assertive people know how to juggle them. They are good at maintaining the momentum and equilibrium in different spheres of their lives.
The very first signs of imbalance that you note must ensure that you sit up and take note. There are several warning signs and if recognized in time will enable you to bounce back to your normal assertiveness skilled self in no time.
The things to do:
Take a short hiatus and listen to what your heart and mind are telling you. The subconscious is a strong way to guide us to our goals.
Enlist your behavioral goals that you want to change in your life and work towards them in bits and pieces.
Start a journal wherein you mention the principles, values and choices that you need to make in life.
Right down transformational statements such as I'm changing into an assertiveness person by doing...
There will be times for you, just like for everyone else on earth when things will not go as you wish it to. That is the time to take stock and guard your behavior all the more.
